The Power of Showing Up - How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired
Author(s): Daniel J. Siegel; Tina Payne-Bryson
What''s the one thing a parent can do to make the most difference in the long run? The research is clear- show up! Now the bestselling authors of The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline explain what this means over the course of childhood.
One of the very best scientific predictors for how any child turns out - in terms of happiness, academic success, leadership skills, and meaningful relationships - is whether at least one adult in their life has consistently shown up for them. In an age of scheduling demands and digital distractions, this might sound like a tall order. But as bestselling authors Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson reassuringly explain, showing up doesn''t take a lot of time, energy, or money. Instead, showing up means offering a quality of presence. And it''s simple to provide once you understand the four building blocks of a child''s healthy development. Every child needs to feel what Siegel and Bryson call the Four S''s-
Safe- We can''t always insulate a child from injury or hurt feelings. But when we give a child a sense of safe harbour, she will be able to take the needed risks for growth and change.
Seen- Truly seeing a child means we pay attention to his emotions - both the positive and the negative - and strive to attune to what''s happening in his mind beneath his behaviour.
Soothed- Soothing isn''t about providing a life of ease, but instead teaching your child how to cope when life gets hard, and showing him that you''ll be there with him along the way.
Secure- When you reliably provide safety, focus on seeing her, and soothe her in times of need, she will trust in a feeling of secure attachment. And thrive!
Based on the latest brain and attachment research, The Power of Showing Up shares stories, scripts, simple strategies, illustrations and tips for honouring the Four S''s effectively in all kinds of situations - when our kids are struggling or when they are enjoying success; when we are consoling, disciplining, or arguing with them; and even when we are apologising for the times we don''t show up for them. Demonstrating that mistakes and missteps are reparable and that it''s never too late to mend broken trust, this is a powerful guide to cultivating your child''s healthy emotional landscape.
''In this encouraging and empowering book, psychiatrist Siegel (Aware) and clinical social worker Bryson provide steps for parents and caregivers to help children attain success and "feel at home in the world" ... Thanks to this excellent work, Siegel and Payne will leave readers with an empathetic and helpful philosophy to apply to their own parenting.''
''At a cultural moment when many kids feel more competition with their parents'' devices than with their siblings, Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson have spun a miracle - The Power of Showing Up is the ultimate guide to family reconnection. Clear, profound, and charmingly illustrated, it unravels the challenges of modern parenting and reveals the simple truths about what children really need from the adults in their lives.''
-Wendy Mogel, New York Times bestselling author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee and The Blessing of a B Minus
''Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson have written their best book yet - and that is saying a lot. They have distilled their parenting wisdom - based on neuroscience research and a deep empathy for children''s needs - into a profound concept- showing up. It is one of those great ideas that seems so obvious - but only after someone has shown it to you and spelled it out clearly. Best of all, Siegel and Bryson "show up" for the reader of this book. They know parents, know their fears and anxieties, hopes and dreams. They know that showing up for children is harder than it sounds, and they provide an accessible path to seeing and soothing children and providing them with safety and security.''
-Lawrence J. Cohen, PhD, author of Playful Parenting
- : 9781925849691
- : Scribe Publications
- : Scribe Publications
- : January 2020
- : 1.9 Centimeters X 15.4 Centimeters X 23.2 Centimeters
- : books
- : English
- : 256
- : Daniel J. Siegel; Tina Payne-Bryson
- : Paperback